Hot & bothered. We’re not talking about sex exactly, but we are talking about what leads up to it; or what doesn’t. Let’s examine turn-ons, turn-offs, how getting hot & bothered evolves in a marriage, what flips the switch for both sexes, and one of the keys to a good marriage. Sex…duh.
In this episode:
• Are we really explaining the difference between a turn-on and foreplay? People know this.
• It’s been established how long we’ve been married a few times now.
• We came to this topic because Randy said we aren’t good enough parents. Say what?!?
• What is NOT a turn-on for us but sure seems to be for others, illustrated by a Brangelina movie.
• Communicating what turns you on & off helps your partner love you better.
• Business time. If you know the song, you’ll catch lots of references in this episode.
• We dissect what Glamour magazine says about the top turn-ons for men & women.
• Discover what Misty is most self conscious about during podcast episodes.
• Taking one popular turn-on to a whole new level.
• What Misty finds so distinguished and what made her say “yuck”.
• The 200 touch rule.
• We discuss the value of knowing your partner’s primary love language.
• Loving someone the way you want to be loved instead of the way they long to be loved can lead to wires crossed.
• Randy is a calculated son of a gun.
• What Randy’s love language has to do with fashion.
• We hold back a story so we don’t embarrass Misty’s mom.
• The odd thing Misty finds sexy.
• How tackling life together and helping each other leads to more “business time”.
• Our research revealed a theme and it wasn’t overtly sexual.
• A partner who is passionate about their goals and dreams equals passion in the bedroom.
• Learn what Misty discovered on Randy’s iPod that uncovered a secret romance.
• It’s less about the skin than it is about the reveal.
• Being known and understood is in the plus column.
• Learn what led to our bonus baby.
• How hanging out as a couple with friends can flip that switch.
• How beer commercials may have influenced Randy.
• Lingerie, getting frisky, and something weird.
• Randy has a strategy for making sure the evening goes very special.
• 5 o’clock shadow = good, I broke my razor = unsexy & painful
• Negating your partner’s feelings or being flippant in general usually means no positive connection between the sheets.
• Turn-offs aren’t always about your partner.
• We share a nice side-effect of recording these episodes.
• We wonder about what will turn us on during year 50 of marriage.
Randy said:
Sex is really fun. But it is really important for a marriage, and not just for making babies. Tweet This
You are like a safe and I know the combination. Tweet This
Misty said:
You’re a sexy gum chewer. Tweet This
If I feel connected to you, it’s like taking a highway instead of the back roads. Tweet This
Dive Deeper:
Glamour’s Top Turn-ons for Men & Women
Business Time by Flight of the Conchords
Brad Riley of iEmpathize
